From Innocence To Insight: Friendships In Adulthood

 



Making friends after you've grown up is the most difficult part of adulting. By 'friends' I mean the real ones. Friends who make you believe that you're enough and you don't require a validation from someone. Friends who respect your boundaries and don't make fun of you when surrounded by other group of people. Friends with whom you feel heard and seen. Friends who don't make fun of your fears and insecurities. Friends who don't judge you. Friends who don't leave you when you need them the most. Friends who reciprocate the same love and energy you give them. Who respect you as an individual. And the moment you start believing them, the moment you start believing that you've found your friend circle, you've found your people, sooner or later realise you were wrong. This world is not as happy as it seems. Very rarely do we find someone in the adult phase of our lives who continue with us till the end. 


Have you ever thought, if someone randomly asks you who would you want to share this piece of information first, you automatically remember that friend you made when you were in class 1, or in class 6 or in 10. Even if you guys are not connected anymore. I miss my class 10th friends though. And I know you guys are reading this. Friendships at initial stages of life are the ones that are with us throughout our life. There's no room for efforts or expectations. You share your bench with someone and eventually become friends. Okay I understand not everyone might have felt this and you cherish that friend of yours you met in college. And that is equally beautiful. Having someone by your side and being there for them is one of the most beautiful feelings in the world. 


But what if one day you meet them and realise you're not important anymore? What if you start feeling that the things you shared with them is what they are sharing with others now? What if you start feeling that you're a third wheel in your own friend circle? What would you do if you realise that they have slowly started drifting away from you? They don't wait for you anymore? They have stopped asking you how have you been even after knowing that you were not okay? That they are busy out there creating memories but they don't want you to be a part of it? 

It hurts and it definitely hurts to realise that you were easily replaceable in someone else's life who was irreplaceable in yours. And in order to not feel left out or to find a good company we often end up with the toxic people around. Or the people who are amazing as individuals but do not prove to be good company. Life is full of what ifs. And trust me it eventually gets better. You will find your way to that person who will know your value and will cherish your presence. And if you've already found them, you won at life. Till then you need to make sure you are there for yourself. Always!


Also, do answer what would you do if you find yourself amidst these what ifs someday?

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